Valentine’s Day Collection
A collection of poems I’ve published so far on relationships, love, and heartbreak.
Valentine’s Day is interesting because it can be looked on in a myriad of ways.
Is it a day for love that everyone can benefit from participating in?
Is it a day for capitalist interests to be expressed, showing love through purchasing items?
Is it a day for reflection, looking deeply on what love means to us and how we can better express it?
Okay…. you got me, I know that it’s not the latter. I wish that it was though.
Our world needs to have a United Nations meeting that comes out with a universal definition of love that can direct people towards healthier relationships. And since that will never happen, let’s do it right now!
In my (woefully uninformed, not even slightly important) opinion, the definition of love is rooted in freedom. We give our friends, spouses, and loved ones the ability to choose where they want to be. All relationships are based on the fact that all parties involved are making a choice. I could be anywhere in the world, but I choose to be here, with you. And we both have to continue to choose each other everyday. You’re free to leave, I’m free to go, but we continue to come back to each other day after day. That’s love to me.
Also, its important to remember the importance of self love. You cannot truly love another if you don’t love yourself. Because if you don’t love yourself, how can you confidently make choices within any relationship dynamic? Your choices will come from a place of lack, which comes from a place of fear. Fear is not the best guide for our decision making.
When you don’t enter relationships with self love already in tow, you tend to try and use relationships as emotional band aids to cover up the trauma you haven’t worked to understand in your own life.
If you can’t love the person you see in the mirror, having expectations of fulfillment from outside of yourself is an exercise in futility. It’s not sustainable, and it won’t last, no matter how much the other person pours themselves into you. You will just end up a drain on them, because they’re always trying to make up for your refusal to work on yourself.
Your relationship with yourself is the first place you need to start showing love. Real, compassionate, understanding, forgiving love.
Of course, human love, or even just love in general, is a nuanced topic, one that could be discussed for days on end. I don’t like to generalize but still, somebody needed to lay down the law. And it might as well be me.
I hope you enjoy this collection of writings of my musings on love and heartbreak.
Going back through it, looks like mostly heartbreak but hey, you write what you know (runs to cry in the corner).
(Comes back) But heartbreak makes us strong, and allows us to see what happens when we have expectations of relationships, rather than appreciating every moment of it, because nothing is ever promised to us.
So appreciate people and let them be free. If you do that, I’m sure you will have a lot of healthy relationships in your life.
They won’t all follow the exact plans you’ve written out, but life never does. Relax and enjoy the ride.
Self Love is the Best Love
This Valentine’s day, remind yourself that you’re worthy of love, regardless of your relationship status.